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Bride Wants A Divorce After Wedding for Groom’s Shady Cake Stunt

There was no “Happily Ever After” for a bride who wanted an immediate divorce after her groom pulled a wedding cake stunt at their reception that she specifically begged him not to.

The woman said the only “hard rule” she laid down before the wedding was that she didn’t want her husband to rub cake in her face at the reception – but instead, he grabbed her head and pushed her into it.

She wrote, to Slate’s advice column, “I got married just before Christmas and am hoping to be divorced or annulled by the end of January.”

The bride continued, “I never cared about getting married, but I wasn’t opposed to it. So when my boyfriend proposed in 2020, we decided to go for it. We each took on about half the responsibility for organizing the wedding, but I think I was pretty reasonable about compromise when he really wanted something. My only hard-and-fast rule was that he would not rub cake in my face at the reception.

“Being a reasonable man who knows me well, he didn’t. Instead, he grabbed me by the back of the head and shoved my head down into it. It was planned since the cake was destroyed, and he had a bunch of cupcakes as backup.”

The bride immediately told her new husband she was “done” with him, but since she says she has been bombarded with calls from family members begging her to give him another chance. That pressure prompted her to write to Slate to see what the general public thought about her actions. 

In her letter to the “Dear Prudence” advice column, the newlywed added, “I left. The next day I told him we were done. I am standing by that. The thing is that over the holidays, everyone has gotten together to tell me I should give him a second chance.”

“They also keep telling me I love him – even though right now I don’t feel that at all – and that he loves me, and that means not giving up at the first hurdle. I don’t want to, but everyone is so united and confident in their assurance I am making a terrible mistake that I wonder if they are right.”

In response, Prudence told the bride to push on with the divorce despite pleas to call it off – because her husband’s actions were a “red flag.”

They wrote back, “Everyone’s sure you’re making a mistake, but they’re not the ones who have to wake up every day with a man whose behavior massively turns them off. You are. So you only have to listen to yourself.”

“I think what he did was a red flag about not respecting you and your wishes. Make a mental note about which of your loved ones don’t seem to value your happiness, and continue with your divorce.”

The bride’s post was later shared on Reddit’s Wedding Shaming forum, where people were stunned by the groom’s actions.

One person wrote, “It’s not even a cutesy splat of cake on the nose; he slammed her head into it and humiliated her.”

And still, another showed the support by saying, “He didn’t just not respect her only boundary, he found the worst, most aggressive way possible to violate it.”

What do you think, was this “caked” bride right? Or is she overreacting, and does her guy deserve another chance? Please reply using the comments below!